Why the groom should not see the dress. Why can't you see the bride's dress. Wedding dress as a talisman

: don't get hung up

I want to say right away: despite the fact that a lot of signs and superstitions are associated with a wedding dress, you don’t need to get hung up on them too much. After all, there was a time when our ancestors simply went to the registry office or the village council in everyday clothes, and then lived happily ever after for decades.

If you think about something bad all the time, then this will certainly happen, so you don’t need to wind yourself up on the eve of the wedding in anticipation that at some point something unforeseen and unpleasant will definitely happen. Better to just relax and enjoy the upcoming holiday.

However, there are and sometimes they really work. For particularly suspicious brides, there are many rules for choosing a wedding dress.

What should be the perfect wedding dress

There is an old belief that a bride should have an item taken from someone close to her. The mother of the bride used to give the girl an embroidered handkerchief. Symbols were embroidered on the handkerchief that protected the bride from unkind looks. It is advisable to ask for some trinket from relatives or girlfriends, but in no case should you borrow a veil and gloves. It is necessary at the end of the wedding to return the borrowed little thing. It is advisable to borrow this thing from a girlfriend who is happily married.

The wedding dress must be brand new. After the wedding, no one can lend it. There is, according to which, someone else's wedding dress can attract other people's problems into family life. A happy wedding dress can be an outfit that stores the energy of the family and is inherited from generation to generation. The wedding dress of a great-grandmother, who has been happily married for more than fifty years, can become a reliable amulet. True, it is difficult to find a family in Russia, where a great-grandmother's wedding dress is kept, which can be worn, so you need to buy an outfit for the upcoming celebration in a store. It is better to buy a simpler wedding dress than to rent a chic outfit.

True, when buying a wedding dress in a store, it is impossible to say with complete certainty that no one has ever worn it before. I personally know such a case when my friend’s mother worked as a salesperson in an elite wedding dress store and took a very beautiful outfit for her daughter for one day, which was then returned back to the salon and was purchased.

The ideal option is a custom-made wedding dress. In this case, you can be completely sure that no one has worn the outfit before, and it does not carry negative energy.

There is also a sign according to which a wedding dress cannot be sewn by the future bride herself or trust this business to close people and relatives.

The wedding dress should be long, as it means a long and happy family life.

An old English omen associated with the bride's attire

According to tradition, the bride must wear four things on her wedding day. One thing must be new, the second old, the third - blue and the fourth, borrowed from a friend. The new thing is a symbol of a new family, where love, peace and harmony will reign; an old thing means the connection of the bride with the house, parents and family in which she grew up. The blue color symbolizes modesty and fidelity, and a thing borrowed means the bride's connection with friends, whose help and support she can always count on in difficult moments in her life.

How to buy a wedding dress

It is best to go with a company of close people. When trying on a dress, only those people in whose good attitude you can be 100% sure should help.

No need to take pictures of yourself in different outfits to compare later. Treat your wedding dress with due respect.

In the store, you need to try so that the future bride in a wedding dress is seen by as few strangers as possible.

The future bride herself does not have to pay for the purchase. The wedding dress before the celebration should be kept in the parental home.

No one, except the bride herself, should try on the purchased dress. Also, you can not put on the entire wedding dress completely and look in the mirror. For example, you can do the fitting in one glove.

What color should the wedding dress be?

Traditionally, a wedding dress should be white. White color symbolizes purity and light that will illuminate the future family life of the newlyweds. However, modern designers offer wedding dresses in various colors, and brides increasingly want to wear something unusual for a wedding.

A yellow wedding dress can attract quarrels and tears to the family, a red one - scandals and numerous strife. However, individual elements of red in a wedding dress or bridal bouquet portend good luck in marriage, the power of love and unquenchable passion.

Gold color attracts money to the family and symbolizes life in abundance. However, you should not marry in an all-gold dress. We are talking about individual elements of decoration.

A pink dress symbolizes deep pure love, but a white wedding dress is still ideal.

How to wear a wedding dress

Folk signs and superstitions say that you can not dress for a wedding on your own or with the help of your mother. The best thing to do is to ask your friends for help. It is they who should help the bride on this day.

On the hem of the wedding dress you need to pin a pin, head down. The pin will avert the eyes of envious people and neutralize negative energy.

The bride's wedding dress must be worn over the head.

How to wear a wedding dress during a celebration

On the day of the wedding, when the groom has already arrived at the bride's house, the young cannot be separated until the moment they are declared husband and wife. It is also impossible to allow guests to pass between them.

If the bride's dress has a very fluffy skirt that interferes with walking, the groom should in no case help his chosen one carry the hem. This should be done by the bridesmaid.

During the wedding ceremony, friends should not correct the bride's outfit. According to the existing sign, in this case they will interfere and spoil the family life of the spouses.

Popular folk signs about the bride's wedding dress

On the day of the wedding, the dress was torn - relations with the mother-in-law may not work out.

If a button flew off the bride's wedding dress, then frequent quarrels and strife in the family are possible. It is necessary to sew on a button that has flown off with two stitches to ward off trouble from the newlyweds. By the way, according to folk tradition, there should be an even number of buttons on the bride's wedding dress.

You can not show the groom in wedding attire before the wedding. It is believed that in this case, the wedding may not take place.

Wedding dress as a talisman

The time before the wedding can hardly be compared with any other. It's all mixed up: smiles, tears, hugs, arguments. Everything is so saturated with emotions that it is not easy for future newlyweds to maintain peace of mind. Not only are they going to take the most important step in their lives, but they are also faced with the chores of organizing a celebration, arranging a future home, choosing wedding dresses, inviting guests, and much more. At the same time, you need to continue to go to work, take care of loved ones, do something around the house. The head is spinning from daily tasks and tasks, and the nerves are at the limit.

Isn't this the reason for the strange signs and prejudices associated with preparing for marriage and everything that has to do with it?

Yes, happiness is indeed very fragile, and it is so scary to lose it. So there are warning, prohibiting and other "horror stories", which, after a while, most people remember with a smile. Was it worth it to worry?

This dress is the most reverent attitude

Probably, more often than others, girlfriends retell each other the signs associated with a wedding dress. Nothing surprising! This outfit means so much to girls! He clearly demonstrates that she loves and is loved, that from now on there are two of them, and they will share all joys and sorrows in half.

There are so many expectations associated with it and they are all happy. And when, finally, this wonderful dress takes its place on the hanger in anticipation of the cherished minute, you absolutely don’t want someone else to touch it, and even more so - to try it on.

It is also quite understandable why the groom should not see the bride in a wedding dress before the wedding. She wants to appear before him in all her splendor. And he will have to admire her beauty and charm enough to remember this for many, many years.

All preliminary fittings and shows will deprive the newlywed of the opportunity to see the reflection of these feelings on the face of her chosen one, and the reference to some kind of trouble was invented “to divert eyes”

The question of whether to show the dress to her friends before the wedding or not to do this is up to each girl to decide on her own. Who knows her friends better than she does, and what can you expect from them? This moment received a negative connotation, probably because of the fear of “jinxing” one’s happiness, suffering from someone else’s envy.

Envy is indeed a very strong feeling that can spoil the mood and further relationships between people. But in the world many examples of sincere friendship, mutual support, when it was thanks to reliable friends that everything worked out in the best way. So know how to choose them, and you will not have to beware of unkind looks.

There are many warnings associated with the process of acquiring a wedding dress. Especially a lot of disagreement sounds about whether it is possible to buy a wedding dress in advance, that is, before the official engagement took place. This is an extraordinary act and a bold step. Not every girl dares to dare him. But there are situations when people at first sight understand that they have found a soul mate, that their feelings are mutual and their “disclosure” is only a matter of time. Then why not?

Another thing is if there is not even a candidate for grooms in mind, but you just want to get married. Then there is no need to rush. By the time such decoration is needed, both the fashion and the figure of the future bride, and her preferences, may change. As for the assertion that a rash purchase will harm future happiness there is no objective evidence for this. No one has ever kept such statistics, so to believe or not to believe in it is your own choice.

Roughly the same applies to doubts about whether an unmarried girl can wear a wedding dress. See how the girl reacts to this. Sometimes your own fears can create such an internal blockage that it is not easy for positive change to break through. But there is also a belief that, according to signs, trying on a wedding dress for an unmarried girl is for an early marriage. There is also a tradition of catching a wedding bouquet thrown at random by the bride at the end of the evening. The one who catches him will find personal happiness within a year.

By the way, it is in this case that one can recall the exact opposite sign. According to one of the superstitions, the newlywed should not release the bouquet from her hands throughout the wedding day, and then put it in her bedroom, then everything will be fine with her. Even better - dry a few flowers as a keepsake and store them until the end of your days. Such a souvenir, they say, will become a talisman of the family. But mutual love and the ability to cherish a partner will save her from troubles much more reliably, and there is no need to “preserve” or “dry” them.

Wedding bouquet in the hands of the bride

Is it possible to choose a wedding dress with the groom?

Sometimes the question arises, who should buy a wedding dress: the bride or the groom? There can be no single answer here. If the future spouse is a successful and wealthy person, he will gladly take all the expenses on himself. The dress, like the rings, the girl will go to buy with the groom. And you should not expect anything negative if the groom saw a dress, shoes or gloves before the wedding.

If only he looked at the bride with love! On that very cherished day, she will still look different, and he will fully feel it.

If the young couple still mainly relies on their parents, they solve this problem and determine what the bride's attire should be, and how much each party should share in the expenses.

Of course, there may be different traditions on this score. So in the USA, for example, payment of all wedding expenses without discussion is assigned to the father of the bride. In France, the festive dinner at which the engagement is announced is paid for by the bride's parents, and the wedding celebration is paid for by both related families. In the UK, at the request of the heroes of the celebration, a wedding rehearsal is held with seating guests and even toasts. As for shopping for wedding dresses, here everything is decided by the personal relationship of the future spouses.

Some superstitious persons suggest the danger in seeing yourself in a mirror in a wedding dress. But how then to determine what really suits you, how to find out if everything is done with the proper quality? Is it better to see your reflection in the mirrors of the Wedding Palace and be upset because everything was different in your dreams?

The bride looks at herself in the mirror before the wedding

Not so long ago, the unshakable and indestructible rule was to dress the bride in snow-white attire. Everything else, at best, looked suspicious and caused gossip. But modern girls masterfully dealt with this prejudice. They go down the aisle not only in, and outfits, but also, steel, brown and even.

The example of the American movie star Sarah Jessica Parker, who appeared at the wedding in a black wedding dress, became a textbook and found many followers

What the color of the bride's dress should certainly be according to signs, if you get married a second time, history is silent. But traditionally he could be more modest and reserved. And the veil was not worn a second time. She symbolized the special purity and innocence of the young newlywed, which was not expected in remarriage.

Today it is a beautiful and delicate attribute of a wedding dress, which can only be worn for this ceremony. And although stylists now offer many ways to decorate a girl's head: flowers in her hair, a headband or hat with a veil, a cape with a hood, a spectacular scarf, many brides remain committed to the classic veil.

This elegant floor-length dress can be worn more than once for ceremonial exits or to the theater, but a veil cannot be worn.

Observation or superstition?

It is clear that everything in the world does not happen by chance, and any statements grow from observations and generalizations. But today's reality is such that even proven by centuries weather signs "work" far from always, the world around us has changed so much.

Once upon a time, festive clothes were of considerable value, especially among the people, and a spoiled outfit foreshadowed serious “showdowns” with older family members. But to promise problems with the mother-in-law to a modern girl, whose wedding dress, according to signs, was torn during the celebration, is at least strange.

It is also considered unfavorable, according to a sign, to sell a wedding dress. This, they say, can provoke a divorce. But if one were to seriously set out to find out the fate of all the couples whose wedding dresses were sold through Internet sites or consignment stores, they would be surprised to find that the percentage of failed marriages does not exceed the national average. And certainly no one heard that someone called the sale of wedding decorations the reason for the breakup.

What can we say about the ban on being photographed in a wedding dress! Millions of newlyweds capture their happy day in dozens of photos, and then look at them with pleasure many years later.

Wise people say: The thought is material. Good thoughts are realized through good deeds and events, while negative ones attract anxieties and sorrows. If we are looking for signs related to the wedding, then only good ones.

A wedding is an important and exciting event in people's lives. As a rule, young people preparing for a wedding celebration, as well as their parents, worry for various reasons: “Will everything go well?”, “Will they be happy in marriage?” etc. In this regard, when preparing and holding the celebration, they try to observe all traditions, take into account all the little things, paying special attention to existing signs, so that the married life of the young is immensely happy and long. To believe or not in wedding signs and superstitions is up to you. Just remember that our happiness is in our hands, so do not bother about it.

Before proceeding directly to the existing wedding signs and superstitions, I want to note that among the people it is believed that “if you don’t know anything about the sign, then it will not come true.”

Well, now, in fact, the wedding signs themselves and superstitions associated with wedding rings.
Those wishing to enter into marriage should not let anyone measure their wedding rings.
It is believed that wedding rings should be chosen in a smooth classical form, without stones, notches, so that the life of the newlyweds is just as smooth.
After the bride and groom have exchanged rings, none of them can take an empty ring box or a dish on which it lay. As a rule, it is taken by an unmarried bridesmaid or an unmarried friend of the groom.
If one of the spouses drops the wedding ring before he puts it on his finger, this is for the upcoming separation. In order to avert "trouble" in this case, a thread should be threaded through the dropped ring (which must be prepared in advance by witnesses), which will take away all the bad things, after which the ring can be put on the finger. After the marriage ceremony is over, the thread should be burned to the one who dropped the ring, while saying the words "burn the fire all my troubles and sorrows."
On the day of the wedding, other than the wedding ring, you cannot wear other rings on your hand.
Losing a wedding ring is considered a divorce, parting.

Signs and superstitions associated with the dress of the bride.
It is believed that a wedding dress should be only for a virgin bride, otherwise the bride should choose a dress of a different color (pink, beige, cream, blue, etc.).
The groom must not see the bride in her wedding attire before the wedding.
It is believed that the bride before the wedding should not look in the mirror in full wedding attire, otherwise there will be minor troubles in family life. It is possible for the bride to look at herself in the mirror, for example, without gloves or without a veil.
If the bride put on her wedding dress before the wedding, then the wedding will not take place. It was believed: put on a dress - got married.
A wedding dress, like an engagement ring, should not be allowed to be measured by anyone.
The wedding dress should be sewn in the form of a dress, not a corset with a skirt, otherwise life will be separate.
The outfit of the mothers of the bride and groom should also be in the form of a dress (but not a suit), otherwise it portends a divorce for the young.
If the wedding dress provides for the presence of buttons, then their number should be even.
It is believed that the girl's underwear on the wedding day should be white.
You should not wear pearl products for a wedding - to the tears of the bride.
Jewelry cannot be worn at the wedding ceremony either, they are replaced with costume jewelry.
When choosing wedding accessories for the bride, you should try to buy a veil and dress on Wednesday, and shoes on Friday.
It is desirable that the style of the wedding dress was without a deep neckline and open shoulders. It is believed that the bride's too open chest remains without protection from the evil eye of envious women.
According to old wedding traditions, the bride must be dressed up in the neighbors' house (not in her own apartment or house), which is located on the same side as the parent's house, since the dressed up bride cannot be taken across the road.
Old wedding signs say that the bride for the wedding celebration should buy closed shoes (not sandals), without laces, otherwise she will face divorce and poverty.
Good luck in family life awaits the bride if she wears old shoes on her wedding day.
Therefore, it is often recommended to wear new shoes bought for the wedding the day before the wedding during the day.
Popular beliefs also say that the absence of fasteners on a wedding dress was a guarantee of an easy delivery in the future.
It is considered bad luck if the bride puts on her wedding dress through her legs. Therefore, it should still be worn over the head.
To protect against the evil eye, the bride needs to make a couple of surrounding stitches that are invisible to the eye on the wedding dress. And if you make a couple of stitches immediately after the marriage, then the marriage will be long and happy.
To protect from the evil eye, the bride and groom need to attach a safety pin on their clothes with the head down in the place where it will be invisible or hide in the clothes until the end of the wedding small icons of the Virgin Mary (for the bride) and Jesus Christ (for the groom) or personalized icons .
On the day of the wedding ceremony, parents should ensure that none of the invited guests and outsiders adjust the clothes on the bride and groom.
A wedding dress cannot be sold after the wedding, it must be kept for life so that the marriage does not fall apart. The same applies to veils and boutonnieres. When a child is born, for example, they cover the baby with a veil if he is sick, or hang over his bed from the evil eye.
In case of pregnancy, the bride should shield the unborn child with a wide red ribbon or belt, which should be carefully disguised under clothing.

What should the bride bring to the wedding?
The bride for the wedding must definitely take something new with her, symbolizing the beginning of her new status (veil, outfit, etc.), something old, as a symbol of peace and wisdom in the future family (old ring, brooch, etc.). etc., the main thing is that it be a thing from a premarital home), an item borrowed from a happy woman in the family plan, as well as something blue, symbolizing love, modesty and fidelity (garter, hair decoration or jewelry).

Signs and superstitions before marriage.
If the bride and groom live together before the wedding, then they must spend the night before the wedding ceremony separately. The groom must still pick up the bride from the parental home or from his own, where he did not spend the night.
When the groom takes the bride from the parents' house, he should not look back.
It is a bad omen for the bride and groom to be photographed together before the wedding and apart after it - to parting.
If the bride cries a little before the wedding (better from parental parting words), then family life will be happy.
To protect against the evil eye, the bride must put a veil over her face before leaving the house, and in the registry office it can be thrown back.
A good sign is considered to be sneezing of one of the bride's relatives on the eve of the wedding in the morning - means a happy marriage.
If the bride and groom in front of the Wedding Palace stealthily eat a chocolate bar for two, a “sweet” life awaits them.
The bride should not allow her friends to stand in front of her in front of the mirror, so as not to take her beloved away. The same goes for the groom.
It is necessary to ensure that no one crosses the road on the way to the registry office for the bride and groom.
According to popular belief, if the groom stumbled at the door of the registry office, this indicates his uncertainty in choosing.
If in the registry office someone steps on the red carpet with the bride and groom - to frequent betrayals.

Wedding signs related to the day or time of the wedding.
It is not necessary to appoint a wedding day on the thirteenth - a bad omen.
It is considered a good omen if the wedding time is scheduled for the afternoon - the marriage will be long and successful.
You should not get married in May, such marriages are not happy (“Good people do not marry in May”, “whoever marries in May will suffer for a century”).
Misfortune promises those couples who announced their upcoming marriage at the end of one quarter of the year, and the wedding took place at the beginning of the next.
You can't get married on a leap year.

Wedding signs associated with the wedding:
Which of the newlyweds has a wedding candle that burns longer - that one will live longer in this world.
If the bride dropped her handkerchief while standing under the crown, according to legend, her husband would die and be her widow.
A suddenly extinguished wedding candle promises a difficult family life or an early death.
Wedding candles should be blown out at the same time by the bride and groom, which will symbolize a long life together.

Signs after marriage or wedding.
If, after the wedding, the newlyweds look in one mirror, there will be good luck.
After the wedding procedure, when leaving, the bride should give out change to prevent trouble in future family life.
The newlyweds must break the first glass of champagne for happiness. Previously, they looked at the fragments who was the first to be born to the young: many large fragments - a boy, small fragments - a girl.
It was believed that if the bride's heel breaks on the day of the wedding celebration, family life would be "limping".
According to tradition, the husband carries his wife across the threshold of a new house in his arms. It was believed that then she would be "carried in her arms" for the rest of her life in the new house. However, the sign "does not work" if the young people lived in this house before marriage.
After the blessing of the parents, the young people should stand together on one rug, then they will live in harmony with their relatives and among themselves.
It is considered a bad omen if the bride pricked her finger during the wedding - to frequent quarrels with her husband.
It is believed that if you fasten two bottles of champagne with a ribbon and leave them at the wedding, then the young will definitely celebrate the wedding anniversary and the birth of their first child.

Wedding omens for happiness.
The bride should not let go of the wedding bouquet throughout the day (in emergency cases, it can be given to the groom or mother to hold). Directly at the wedding banquet, the bouquet should be placed on the table in front of you, and in the evening - take it to your bedroom.
Good luck in family life awaits the young, on the day of their marriage it rained or snowed.
The groom needs to carry the bride across the bridge in his arms for a long and happy life together.
During the celebration of the wedding, the newlyweds must sit at the wedding table on the same bench (not on chairs) so that the family is friendly, otherwise the marriage will fail.
In order to always have prosperity in the new family, on the way the newlyweds are showered with grain, millet, coins and sweets, and the coins put into the glasses of the bride and groom during the wedding are kept at home, under the tablecloth.
It is impossible to allow anyone to stand between the bride and groom, so that the marriage is inviolable, otherwise they will disperse.
In order for the family life of the newlyweds to be happy, it is necessary to take unmarried and unmarried, as well as undivorced friends and girlfriends as witnesses. If one witness is married to another, then the marriage of the witnesses will break up.
In order for the young family to be friendly, when preparing the bed for the young, the pillows are laid in such a way that the cuts of the pillowcases (where the buttons are sewn) touch.
The newlyweds at the table should be put on a fur coat, wool up, so that they live richly.
In order for the new family to always have prosperity, the groom should put a coin in his right shoe on the wedding day, which is then kept as a family heirloom.
At the wedding banquet, the newlyweds must dance all the dances together, and only a little with their parents, who, after the dance, must necessarily bring the young to each other.

Other wedding omens and superstitions.
Invited guests to the wedding are not allowed to wear black clothes.
It is believed that if you knit any thing to your loved one before the wedding - to treason and parting.
Washing the threshold of the house from which the bride left promises her soon return to her parents.
The newlyweds at the wedding banquet should not have wine in their glasses - tears remain.
If the bride’s left palm itches during the wedding - to wealth, the right one - the house will always be full of guests and fun.
Breaking a mirror before a wedding is considered a bad omen.
You should know that it is not customary to give knives and forks to a wedding, otherwise the young family will live in quarrels.
If you nevertheless gave cutlery with knives and forks, you should give the coin to the giver.

Traditionally…
On the eve of the wedding, the bride puts a mirror up to her pillow at night.
An odd number of guests are invited to the wedding.

Everyone decides for himself whether or not to follow wedding traditions and superstitions. But still, if you were invited to a wedding, regardless of whether the young people adhere to or not, traditions should be observed so as not to upset future spouses.

In our modern and developed society, there is still a large number of different signs and superstitions. One of the main wedding superstitions is that the groom should not see the bride's wedding dress until the wedding day. Why can't a girl and her future husband go to a bridal salon together and pick up a wedding outfit?

How did this wedding sign come about?

They say that the sign existed in ancient Russia and migrated in our time from old Russian traditions. However, the period where and when this sign appeared remains unknown. But one thing has remained unchanged - this is the belief of most girls in this obsolete sign.

So is it possible for the bride to choose a dress together with the groom? Let's take a look at some of the pros and cons.

So, the arguments "against":

1. Marriage life will be unhappy, or not at all.

On this occasion, the popular sign clearly defines: in no case should the future spouse see, and even more so choose and buy a wedding dress for the bride. And it gives an idea of ​​​​what can happen: expect trouble, the marriage will be short-lived, the wedding may be upset. After such definitions, any bride will want to play it safe and not take the groom with her to the bridal salon.

1. Sign in vain cannot exist.

Most grandmothers are sure that since the sign has come down to our days, this is not just. It has been tested by time, and by more than one generation of people, which means it has been confirmed. Smart people won't talk in vain. After all, it cannot be that, due to someone's stupidity, this sign was followed for so many years.

1. Relationship with the past.

Many believe that by observing signs and traditions, especially wedding ceremonies, they pay tribute to their ancestors, and they, in turn, strengthen the marriage union.

1. The thought is material.

According to this theory, the idea is firmly rooted in your subconscious that if the groom sees the wedding dress before the day of the celebration, expect trouble. If you really believe in this sign, you will see in everything only a confirmation of this thought, even without a reason.

1. The surprise effect.

Probably the strongest argument in favor of buying a wedding dress without a groom is the effect that you can have on him with your luxurious image. After all, he has never seen you in such a chic image. This kind of surprise on your part, the groom will remember for a lifetime.

We hope that the arguments "Against" are more or less sorted out.

Now, as for the arguments "For":

1. Signs of the past.

In our constantly changing world, it is simply indecent to continue to believe in signs and superstitions. First of all, this concerns whether the bride can buy a wedding dress with the groom? Modern progress has stepped forward, and with it sciences such as philosophy and psychology, which have been able to explain why people still hold superstitious views.

1. wedding dress- the dream of two.

We are accustomed to the understanding that only the bride in her dreams presents her wedding dress, forgetting about the second half - the groom. Of course, a man will be happy to see his beloved girl next to him at the altar in any outfit. But he, like the girl, imagines the image of the future bride. Why not take it with you then. Give him the opportunity to participate, express his ideas and views on trying on wedding dresses. The groom's advice and opinion on choosing a dress can be very constructive and helpful. Choosing a dress with the groom can be quite an exciting adventure.

1. In a relationship, the choice of dress is not the main thing.

Any psychologist can explain that it does not matter whether the groom saw the dress or not, the main thing is the emerging feeling between two people, mutual understanding and patience with each other. Let's be realistic, a marriage union cannot fall apart because of signs. Destroy a marriage can: treason, assault, misunderstanding. And no need to blame someone or something, for example, a wedding dress. If you can't find a common language with each other, the dress has nothing to do with it.

1. Religion denies superstition.

The Church denies any signs and superstitions, believing that they have passed to us from pagan culture. Therefore, first you need to determine what you believe in, in pagan superstitions or in church foundations.

In any case, the choice is always yours. We will be pleased if these arguments helped to understand and dispel doubts. Happy marriage!

What is shooting Love Story really (and what is it for)
Many photographers and videographers have a Love Story shooting service. But different performers can have completely different services! So what's the difference?

The fact is that everyone puts something of their own into the concept of shooting a “love story” and, having asked one photographer how much a love story costs and what it includes, it is quite possible that another photographer has a completely different perception of a love story, and this will be a completely different service. maybe even given to you as a gift.

Everyone knows that a love story is some kind of romantic couple shoot where you two are filmed before the wedding. There are actually a lot of types. I'll talk about the main ones. The simplest option is what is, as it were, replaced by the word "love story" - pre-wedding shooting. In fact, this is a wedding shooting rehearsal, which is done so that you, as a couple, get used to the photographer and videographer who will shoot you.

This is a small photo shoot in ordinary clothes. It can be filmed anywhere: in the park, on the street, etc. In general, where there will be beautiful light. Roughly speaking, it is done so that you see how the photographer works, understand what you will have to do on this shoot, what is different from a passport photo, so that the groom sees that it is not scary, and the bride understands that she, it turns out that it can turn out beautifully in photographs, and that the photographer can take it beautifully.

That is, it's just such a training photo shoot. But photos, if they are taken in advance, you can safely use when decorating your wedding: print them on invitations, magnets or posters, give away to guests, in general, anything. This is what is called a pre-wedding shoot, that is, a small rehearsal, rather short in time.

By the way, this year I give it as a bonus, but many photographers sell for extra money. Not the essence, the main thing is that you understand what it is. There is a Western tradition of pre-wedding photo shoots - this is, roughly speaking, pre-wedding photography in wedding suits, with hair, makeup - the way you will look at the wedding.

In the West, this often happens before the wedding, but because we have a tradition that the groom should not see the bride's dress until just before the day of the event. Therefore, we often shoot it after, because in the traditions of European weddings at a wedding, there is especially no time to carry out this large-scale photo shoot. Therefore, they do it in advance. When it's just a wedding, some Russian photographers can find such a service as After Wedding Photos. What it is? (continued in video)

It becomes uncomfortable. Remembering a common superstition, the bride is almost sure that your marriage will not be happy. Although, on the other hand, deep down, something arouses suspicion: is it really all true? After all, other ancient wedding signs and superstitions do not cause you such anxiety. Can I show the groom a wedding dress or is it still not? What is the right thing to do in such a situation? The website www.site will tell.

How did the omen come about?

A sign that claims that the groom cannot see the bride's dress before the wedding appeared in Ancient Russia and was allegedly tested on specific cases. But we won’t be able to find out these “true” stories, because no one remembers them for a long time. However, according to the sign, if the groom saw the bride in a wedding dress, the marriage will be short-lived, weak, and there is even a chance of a break in relations even before the ceremony. It sounds so intimidating that even non-superstitious girls do not dare to take such a step and diligently make sure that their future husband does not see the wedding dress in any case. Although the church strongly rejects such signs and beliefs. The same opinion is shared by psychologists who believe that only our own fears and complexes become the culprits of all problems.

Let's try to sensibly assess this situation and understand whether it is worth hiding the dress from the groom or still takes it calmly.

Do not show the wedding dress to the groom

• If the bride is very superstitious, then there is no need to make yourself nervous again. Let it be better for you to be calm, because there will be plenty of pre-wedding troubles. They will make you feel quite excited. And, despite the temptation to show your favorite dress, do not do it. Your nerves and peace of mind are much more valuable.
• The most weighty argument is that the dress will be a pleasant surprise for the groom. Just imagine: your future husband will see you in a beautiful dress, with an amazing wedding hairstyle, perfect make-up. This unforgettable moment will remain in his memory forever. That is why a sufficiently large number of brides do not show their outfit to men in order to surprise and amaze them on the day of the celebration.

Show the wedding dress to the groom

• If you lived together before the wedding for a long time, then hiding the dress from the groom will not be easy. Perhaps there is nowhere to hang it, and the bride's parents live in another city (you can't bring it to them either). And, as you know, in order for the dress to straighten before the celebration, it needs to hang in a spacious place. In this situation, you will not be able to hide it.
• Demonstrate the dress if you do not believe in omens and they have become relics of the past for you. Then this is not a reason at all, because of which it is worth being nervous and worried.
• Some grooms want to be involved in the wedding dress selection process. Though rare, it does happen. And it is also possible that your loved one is the best adviser for you. And you just can't decide which dress to buy or rent without his help.

There may be many pros and cons, but you will have to decide this issue yourself. However, the wedding portal www.. They believe that marriages do not break up because the bride showed her dress to the groom. Families fall apart from distrust, betrayal, misunderstanding. Therefore, the main thing is to believe in the sincerity of your relationship, and then no superstitions can interfere with you.